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08-07-2007, 10:01 PM
So any good advice for this?? Fly out tomorroow for Buffalo, far away from Kevin:hill: :beer: . Sounds like her parents like good beer, so i've been building up the tolerance:beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: . Fly out tomorrow AT 1AM:eek: . Will be fun to head further east than Chicago....:rolleyes: :beer:

08-07-2007, 10:23 PM
try to get them to do most of the talking, should be 80/20 them. Find things around the house like pictures, knick knacks, etc., then show interest in them.. ask them where they got them, when, wow sounds interesting, go on.. hmm.. you don't say? I always wondered about that...

When they do ask you questions about your job, ambitions, future, etc. then go for it, but then throw back the "what about you?" question. Again, hit the right chord and the old man will talk all night and think you were the greatest guy ever. Last place you want to be is sitting on your hands, on the couch, you just gave the shortest answer ever and now everyone's staring at each other.

08-07-2007, 10:46 PM

Great advice, Tim! I call it the "pie eating rule" if you both sit down for a meal, you should nearly finish yours before the other person realizes they have been talking the whole time. Keep asking open ended questions, remember, when you marry a gal, you marry her WHOLE family, so it is good for you to get to know them... for your sake as well.

Have fun, and be yourself!


08-07-2007, 11:07 PM
Be yourself. Have fun. You are a good man. Call when you return.

08-08-2007, 12:17 AM
Oh, and if you don't *really* like her mother, RUN!!!


Seldom Seen
08-08-2007, 12:48 AM
Sounds like her parents like good beer,

Have them take you to the Anchor Inn, home of the original Buffalo Wings. Order a 12 Horse Ale. :beer:

08-08-2007, 08:31 AM
Oh, and if you don't *really* like her mother, RUN!!!

Ditto. In many unexpected ways you will be marrying her mother in time-warp mode. No matter how different she seems from her today.

08-08-2007, 08:56 AM
What, you got a girl?

If you tell her Dad that your ambition is to spend a year in the Desert and then go from there, that would not be a wise thing to do, coming from a dad's perspective.

sno bored
08-08-2007, 09:18 AM
Tell them you live near a brewery, and try to impress them with how much beer you can drink. :boozer: Make sure you get your mohawk going again :perry: I'm sure the folks would like that.

J Kimmel
08-08-2007, 09:20 AM
tell them you once milked a cat.

08-08-2007, 10:49 AM
1. Ask them if they want to join your multi-level marketing business. "It's sure to make you a millionaire in no time!"

2. Tell them that you really dig their daughter for her body. Provide details.

3. Ask them if they have any show tunes. Tell them how "West Side Story" is your all-time favorite. Wear nothing but salmon-colored clothing and say "oh snap!" often.

4. Assure them that you're fertile. "Yep, my swimmers are strong! We can pump out some grandkids fer ya, when the time is right."

5. Ask them if they have any percocet, vicodin or oxycontin they can loan you. Don't provide any reasons.

6. Ask if there is a good tattoo shop nearby. Ask her Mom if she has any tatts herself.

7. When you talk about your photography, mention that you're considering shooting for Internet porn web sites, because "That's where all the money is."

8. Talk about how your hero is Michael Moore.

There. That should win them over. Call me if you need more suggestions.

08-08-2007, 10:52 AM
OK, seriously. All the suggestions so far are good. One thing I always did was find something to fix around the house -- sometimes with the Dad, sometimes just by myself. The parents always appreciated it, and it always looked better than sitting around on my ass watching TV (or trying to get my G/F alone somewhere :D).

08-08-2007, 11:11 AM
Having been on the other side when my kids brought someone by I have a couple suggestions:
1. Don't try to BS them, they know bullsh*t when they hear it.
2. Keep your hands off their daughter when they're around.
3. Be courteous and respectful, first impressions are indelible.
4. Have a good time and if you can't have a good time, endure with a smile.


08-08-2007, 11:33 AM
just stare out the window and keep mumbling how green it is out there...

just be yourself perry. The red eye back east sucks.

08-08-2007, 12:42 PM
Don't hit on her mom.....

08-08-2007, 05:00 PM
OK, here is an actual *helpful* suggestion-
Walk right up to her dad in your best businesslike manner (notice I did not say sales-like), make solid eye contact (with a smile), stick out your hand, and say "Glad to meet you, sir!" Nice firm handshake. Amazing how rare that has become. Do the same with her mom, only allow her to initiate the handshake if at all. Speak right up, and clearly. Thank you, please, yes sir, no sir, the whole etiquette thing.

Maybe it is my Southern heritage, but 'sir' and 'ma'am' are not out of fashion. Find as many things to respect about them as you can, and roll these around in your mind while you are there. Amazing how that will just create an attitude of respect. After all, you like their daughter a lot, she didn't pop out of nowhere!

08-14-2007, 10:12 PM
well... how did this go Perry?

08-14-2007, 10:15 PM
Well, everything went awesome. Her parents are really cool. Meet most of the family on Sunday, lots of good people. And yes, her parents enjoyed having me:cool: :beer: . Though i'm sorry Romer, as I didn't take you advice, as it didn't make much sence to me:confused: , sorry man:cheers: . Now I just have to wait 4 months to see her again:eek: :beer: :beer:

08-15-2007, 07:09 PM
That call on saturday from Daniel was at a good time, a time of tension or just some time alone? Just wanted to know if my question got you in trouble or not?
Your buddy robbie

08-15-2007, 09:10 PM
That call on saturday from Daniel was at a good time, a time of tension or just some time alone? Just wanted to know if my question got you in trouble or not?
Your buddy robbie

Not in trouble at all. Was going to tell Dan that we drove by Cornell that day. Didn't realize I had the speaker phone on:rolleyes:

08-15-2007, 11:34 PM
Well, now they know you have adoring fans!