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Old 07-20-2013, 02:49 PM
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Need some advice.... My daughter turned 4 today and asked her Grandmother for an Ipad. Fortunately this conversation took place on "speaker phone" and my wife overheard my daughter's request. Later in that same conversation my wife specifically asked my Mother-in-law not to purchase an Ipad but suggested a more 4 year old appropriate gift. Well, as luck would have it, the lastest Ipad was in my daughters hands for about 30 seconds. Fortunately, we hadn't given her our gift, a princess "dress-up" kit, which truned out to be a great distracter to slip the Ipad back into the bag & outta sight. So how do I manage this latest situation regarding Grandma? She's a sweet lady but constantly disregards our wishes regarding gifts, nap times, light discipline (like maners), and basically anything else that she doesn't want to hear?
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Old 07-20-2013, 05:33 PM
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Don't worry... You only have 13-14 more years of these kind of problems. I'd say most of it is generational. And all of it is out love for your daughter... If you remember those two things, it makes it a lot easier.
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The 500 mile rule. Never live within 500 miles of family. Everyone gets along great.

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Old 07-20-2013, 10:24 PM
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The 500 mile rule. Never live within 500 miles of family. Everyone gets along great.

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I like that. Pine Junction wasn't far enough & now we're in Littleton!!!
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Tell her I need an Ipad!

LOL. No advice here, I don't really get along with my mother in law, but I hardly see her even though she is in Bailey. I'm sure things will get tricky once the little ones come along.

That said, I find with family matters, its always best to keep the peace if possible. No winners in family drama.

Where did you live in Pine Junction? Thats where I'm from, my folks live back in Lionsbrook.
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Old 07-21-2013, 05:56 AM
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Thanks fellas, I'm still very irritated but didn't lose any sleep. We were neighbors w/ D. Brown at the base of Lion's Head (now Stanton State Park).
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Return the ipad for a refund, and open a savings account for your little one for the future. If questioned about the device, a simple "she broke it right away" answer would do....If you did this with all the gifts that are out-of-line from your Mother in law, your kid might end up with a nice little account come college time...
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Return the ipad for a refund, and open a savings account for your little one for the future. If questioned about the device, a simple "she broke it right away" answer would do....If you did this with all the gifts that are out-of-line from your Mother in law, your kid might end up with a nice little account come college time...
This was discussed but our concern is the future...when she's not so easily distracted by another wrapped gift
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Old 07-21-2013, 02:54 PM
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Find some good educational stuff for her to play on the ipad, read books, ect. We go through the same stuff with my parents/ wife's parents.
You can use the i-pad as reward and punishment. Earn time for good behavior, lose time for poor behavior.


She's a Grandma, that's what Grandma's do. That's why Grandparents are Awesome. If we're lucky, we'll get to be that awesome one day.

We now send our kids to stay with Grandma and Grandpa for 10 days every August. Grandparents follow the rules better when kids stay overnight at their house for a few days.
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Don't worry... You only have 13-14 more years of these kind of problems. I'd say most of it is generational. And all of it is out love for your daughter... If you remember those two things, it makes it a lot easier.
This.

I am a big "intentions" guy.

it took a long time for me to realize that intentions don't carry as much weight as they should when we interact with each other especially in laws and family. That's not a free pass to disregard boundaries as long as it is with good intentions. But if everyone in general, not just families put some more weight into intentions behind actions and reactions things would be easier me thinks.
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